Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)

Even though we might consider ourselves to be empathetic, sometimes how we respond when other people express their fears is dismissive, judgemental and oversteps boundaries. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain we sometimes struggle...

We don’t need to like or agree with someone to empathise

Last year, I posted on my Instagram stories about comments about a celebrity who was expressing their grief publicly. The vitriol and harassment showed a distinct lack of empathy and society’s discomfort with displays of emotion and grief. In some parts of...

Don’t confuse empathy with playing a role of accommodation and overcompensation

Something you need to be mindful of when you have a keen sense of empathy and can pick up, for instance, on what people are feeling or where they’re coming from, is not falling into a role of accommodation and overcompensating.  So, for instance, you notice that...
Podcast Ep. 169: ‘They journal/meditate/do yoga/go to therapy. Shouldn’t they be more emotionally intelligent?’

Podcast Ep. 169: ‘They journal/meditate/do yoga/go to therapy. Shouldn’t they be more emotionally intelligent?’

Sometimes people say stuff like “They journal/meditate/do yoga/go to therapy, so they should be more emotionally intelligent” to explain their confusion, anger and hurt over a relationship. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions,...
Whose Moral Compass Are You?: The Conscience Wingman

Whose Moral Compass Are You?: The Conscience Wingman

I was recently asked if I recognised that I had adopted a role as a child, of being the conscience of my parents, which quickly made sense to me because I had the people pleasing habit, which is about showing other people how to behave. It’s like, ‘I did...