“Why Didn’t My Relationship Work Out?”: Incompatibility

We cite so many reasons some relationships don’t work out, but they’re one reason: incompatibility, also known as wanting different things. It’s nothing to do with being ‘good enough’. ‘Trying harder’ won’t fix it. When we break up with someone...

Why We Don’t Leave Painful and Sucky Situations: It’s Due to People Pleasing

Something many of us find baffling is painful, sucky, one-sided relationships that, despite resenting our mistreatment by the other party, we find it challenging to create healthier boundaries and distance and/or cut ties. It’s all too easy to judge ourselves...

Podcast Ep. 254: Are You Inadvertently Avoiding a Successful Outcome?

Sometimes, despite our fervent desire to no longer be in a painful and uncomfortable situation, we are stuck. We keep going back or we stick to the familiar pattern. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why our fear of what being...

Believing you’ve put in too much to leave and that to ‘give up’ would be a ‘waste’

Believing you’ve put in too much to leave and that to ‘give up’ would be a ‘waste’ is a trap. You stay in a situation long past its sell-by date, blocking you from accepting, grieving and growing. The thing is, your efforts and experience...

This is why not letting go of the wrong relationship blocks our happiness and growth

What if part of our growth, happiness and healing (and that of others), is letting go when a relationship stands in the way of this? How differently would we view breakups or recognising incompatibility? All too often, we tend to internalise the letting go of a...