Feeling Not Good Enough and Angry: How Envy Reveals Our Self-Limiting Rules

Have you ever created tension or conflict to divert internal attention from feelings of envy? It results from feeling deflated due to comparison— estimating yourself against others. Examples of envy:  Feeling angry with yourself for not being happy for a friend....

Making sense of people seemingly being unhappy with your happiness

Not everyone is going to be happy for you when you are. People you will expect to share in your joy, to be pleased for you, to acknowledge whatever’s happened, might not. They’ll maybe like your Facebook or Instagram post(s) but say absolutely nothing at...

Podcast Ep. 195: Are you being nice, or are you disguising anger and control?

I’m back after taking my summer break, and in this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I want to get into the subject of what can be the dark side of being nice. I talk about why, sometimes, we confuse what are actually our attempts to control, avoid...
Podcast Ep. 110: Jealousy, Envy & ‘Hate Following’ in Friendships

Podcast Ep. 110: Jealousy, Envy & ‘Hate Following’ in Friendships

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is part of this autumn’s series of episodes on the topic of friendship. Jealousy and envy are natural emotions, and yet we often feel very uncomfortable admitting that we feel this way, while reacting in ways...
Podcast Ep. 37: Being Too Passive Can Be Misinterpreted As Disinterest, 5 Values Questions, Shady Gifts

Podcast Ep. 37: Being Too Passive Can Be Misinterpreted As Disinterest, 5 Values Questions, Shady Gifts

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 37, I cover: Sometimes being a little too passive becomes a turn-off: My friend recently ended a relationship because he didn’t ‘chase’ but it turned out that she ended it...