Podcast Ep. 157: ‘Damaged Goods’ & Relationship Experience

Some people think that they’re ‘damaged goods’ and limit their romantic prospects because they’ve had little or no experience, or because they’ve had a string of unsuccessful relationships or because of, for example, a difficult...
Advice Wednesday: Should I Worry About His Reluctance To Label Our Relationship?

Advice Wednesday: Should I Worry About His Reluctance To Label Our Relationship?

Lauren asks: I have been seeing a guy for around 4/5 months and the other night he brought it up and we had “the talk” and he expressed how he doesn’t want to put a label on it out of fear it might change and if it happens it will happen naturally....
Carting Excess Baggage Around Puts the Past on Repeat. Offload, Repack, Reclaim.

Carting Excess Baggage Around Puts the Past on Repeat. Offload, Repack, Reclaim.

Before I faced how I felt about my childhood, my relationships, and myself due to these and any choices I’d made in adulthood, I was avoidant. People asked what I was looking for in a relationship, and I’d make wisecracks. I’d regale them with tales...
Are you clutching your security blanket? Why it’s time to strip off the extra layers of anger and hurt you’re carrying

Are you clutching your security blanket? Why it’s time to strip off the extra layers of anger and hurt you’re carrying

While listening to a reader reel off a list of hurts and incidents that had taken place over the years, I was reminded of an episode of the Salt N Pepa reality show, which I managed to catch one day when I should have been tidying and instead was regressing to being a...

Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 5): Breaking the Cycle

In parts one through four, I explained how having unhealthy love habits, including being involved with unavailable people who offer the least likely prospect of a committed relationship and people who seek to take advantage and abuse our boundaries, is due to dating...