Healthy Boundaries Are as Much for You as They Are for Everyone Else

One of the mistakes many make in trying to have boundaries is seeing them solely as a means of guiding and directing or even ruling others. Boundaries are for us first and foremost. Others know our line when we know it. If someone isn’t being boundaried, continuing to...

Even if You’re the Strong One, You Need Help and Support Too

Asking for or just straight up needing help and support doesn’t make us weak; it makes us human. Always being the giver or everything having to be transactional where we see people as a means to an end or feel as if we have to earn support first or pay it...

Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All

The aim of a relationship isn’t to show up doing what you always do. You don’t have a pre-defined role. No, you don’t. Shout-out to all the people pleasers, including Florence Nightingales, Listeners, Buffers, Good Girls/Guys, Helpers, Savers, and more, of the world....

The Invisible Burden: How Emotional Baggage Shapes Our Love Life

When you examine your emotional baggage, which affects you mentally, physically and spiritually, you see that the unresolved and unquestioned beliefs, judgements, stories, disappointment, rejection, trauma, unmet needs, blame, shame, obligation, resentment and...

Pretending to Be Something You’re Not Won’t Win You a Relationship

When you pretend to be something you’re not, doing things not because they reflect who you are but because it’s what you’ve always done, what you think is expected, or what you believe will ‘get’ you love or help you avoid negative outcomes, you are playing a role....