Putting people on pedestals doesn’t give us the right to ‘compensation’

While working on the recent podcast episode about thinking that someone might be too good to be true, the issue of putting people on pedestals came up. This is where we elevate people to this glorified status by exaggerating who they are or, yes, by diminishing...

Podcast Ep. 211: Too good to be true?

Something that makes us nervous is when someone appears to be a little (or a lot) too perfect. Things are so great, so impressive, so much of what we want or hope to get that we find it difficult to believe. Even if there aren’t what seem like obvious reasons...

Podcast Ep. 195: Are you being nice, or are you disguising anger and control?

I’m back after taking my summer break, and in this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I want to get into the subject of what can be the dark side of being nice. I talk about why, sometimes, we confuse what are actually our attempts to control, avoid...

Needs and wants are not about being worthy and deserving

Central to the story of every struggle that someone has shared with me is the underlying notion that if only they were more worthy and deserving, they would have got what they needed and wanted, or they could be who they truly are. Believing that we are sufficiently...
There is no ‘job opening’; relationships are co-created.

There is no ‘job opening’; relationships are co-created.

Are you looking for a relationship right now? If so, consider whether you’re coming from an empowered place, or whether you feel inferior in some way and as if this potential future partner, who you might not have met yet, holds the power to determine your future. If...