Low Expectations and Accepting the Bare Minimum in Relationships Fuels Self-Rejection

When you’ve been hurt and don’t feel safe in trusting others, it’s easy to rationalise that being in a bare-minimum relationship is the safe option. It’s like, How can I go wrong when I’m going out of my way to have low expectations? We figure...

Your Breakup or Relationship Status Doesn’t Reflect Your Worth or Identity

I’ve worked with many clients who feel they’ve failed or are a failure because of a breakup or not being in a relationship yet. This mentality tells me a few things: They see themselves as being 100% responsible for the success of a relationship, so they will go to...

Breakups Are Often Catalysts For Self-Discovery… If We Pay Attention

When we view a breakup through the lens of our untruths, we see the undesired outcome as proof of our unworthiness. So many of us mistakenly believe breakups and incompatibility are signs of failure. Of course, this affects how we show up for ourselves and within...

If You Want a Loving Relationship, Don’t Settle for Crumbs

If you keep choosing and engaging at the level of a previous unfulfilling or unhealthy relationship, you’re effectively sending a message to yourself that these relationships are ‘right’ for you. The same goes if you keep insisting that the wrong relationship should...

Perfectionism Makes Us Feel Unworthy and Blocks Loving Relationships

Perfectionism, the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection, is soul-destroying and debilitating, sucking the joy out of everything from our work to our creative endeavours to our relationships. There are over eight billion people on the planet, and not one...