The Only People Who Take Issue With You Having Boundaries Are the Ones Who Need Your Boundaries the Most

Something that really scares someone who’s embarking on instilling some much-needed boundaries is believing that having and asserting boundaries will scare away everyone. The thing is, the only people who take issue with healthy boundaries are the ones...
Revisited: Understanding what your trust points were in your shady relationship

Revisited: Understanding what your trust points were in your shady relationship

Don’t forget that I’m on a ‘break’ until September so I will mostly be featuring some of yours and my favourite posts from the archives. ********** I’ve previously written about when we wonder what happened to that guy (or woman) that we...

When we’re stuck on the hurt after confiding in somebody who proves to be untrustworthy & why we sometimes confide to preserve a fantasy that keeps us ‘safe’

Life in its trial and error way of teaching us lessons, gradually helps us to learn which people in our life are safe to confide in. This is when we trust someone enough to share a private matter, believing ourselves to be safe in the knowledge that it won’t be...

The importance of having ‘stranger awareness’ – don’t let people pretend that they know you better than they do!

Sometimes I read stories from readers who are experiencing the drama that comes with trying to preserve a non-existent friendship with a stranger or who are feeling cut up over someone they didn’t actually know, or they are talking about a person with a level of...
Do we really need to keep screwing around with friendship?

Do we really need to keep screwing around with friendship?

Sometimes I catch myself when I’m about to describe someone as a friend when they’re more of an acquaintance or near close to being a stranger and I correct myself. The mutual relationship between friends has become quite cheap in this day and age when...