Airing our dirty laundry? Or being more open about gaslighting and mistreatment?

For over seventeen years, I’ve written about relationships and seen a hell of a lot of stuff online. It’s always fascinated me how men can talk about their painful breakups and receive empathy, sympathy and new romantic prospects. Their DMs fill up, fast. Empathy for...

Were they ‘just trying to be nice’?

Being involved with someone who engages in inappropriate and abusive behaviour, such as gaslighting, harassment, coercive control, and verbal, physical or financial abuse, creates a great deal of self-doubt. After all, for this person to operate in our life, they’ve...

Podcast 185: The Emperor DOESN’T Have Any Clothes On – Let’s Talk About Gaslighting

As I watched a press conference on the news earlier this week, I acknowledged a familiar uneasiness that reminded me of when I’d been in other situations like it. I was being gaslighted. The person was attempting to shift reality by creating doubt and confusion...
Podcast Ep. 68: Why Did We Break Up?–Dungeons & Dragons

Podcast Ep. 68: Why Did We Break Up?–Dungeons & Dragons

It’s time for another episode of Why Did We Break Up?. When Lloyd friend requested Abbie on Facebook, she was surprised because she’d got the feeling that he didn’t like her. Awkward, shy and a tad antisocial, she gradually got to know him and saw him as a...

Why Me and Not Them?

When it appears that someone presents an entirely different persona to the outside world than what they do with you, it messes with your head when you 1) blame you for their treatment, or you 2) question whether you’re imagining what you’re experiencing,...