Moving past ambiguous situations: It’s OK to take a step back when they say that they’re not interested

Moving past ambiguous situations: It’s OK to take a step back when they say that they’re not interested

When two people are romantically interested in each other, they make it known and it doesn’t turn into this long, drawn out, ambiguous rigamarole of wondering whether or not they’re interested. It’s because one or both parties are being ambiguous why...

The more assumptions you make, the more misunderstandings you have to deal with (Mo’ Assumptions, Mo’ Problems)

While sometimes our inability to understand each others’ positions on something can be attributed to incompatible values, sometimes it’s down to being at cross purposes – talking about different subjects without realising it and as a result, not...
Revisited: Relationships in a Nutshell – Co-pilots & the importance of a joint agenda

Revisited: Relationships in a Nutshell – Co-pilots & the importance of a joint agenda

After much observation and plenty of experience, I believe that healthy relationships have joint agendas and co-pilots and unhealthy ones have drivers and passengers with solo and hidden agendas. When you recognise the importance of being a co-pilot sans a hidden...
Relationships are 100:100. It’s Tricky To Divide Relationships and People Into Halves.

Relationships are 100:100. It’s Tricky To Divide Relationships and People Into Halves.

Whenever I hear people describing relationships as 50:50, I wonder how one goes about dividing a relationship in half. After all, half of a relationship is pretty subjective and open to interpretation. One person’s ‘50%’ is another person’s...

What Learning About The Special Effects in Apollo 13 & Titanic Taught Me About Future Faking, Fantasy Relationships & Why We Get Carried Away

Having a browse over a cup of tea, I found myself on the TED site and finally got around to watching a talk. I was drawn (and I have no idea why) to The Art of Creating Awe by Rob Legato who is behind the special effects for films including Titanic and Apollo 13....