The stress and anxiety of figuring out the ‘etiquette’ of who pays for dates

The stress and anxiety of figuring out the ‘etiquette’ of who pays for dates

How someone interacts with money on dates can prove to be a deal-breaker. Despite expanding relationships beyond the outdated notion that male-female relationships are ‘the norm’, the mental stumbling block of who pays on dates persists. A legacy of what...
Podcast Ep.32: Appreciating You, Deal-Breakers, You Can’t Be ‘The Solution’

Podcast Ep.32: Appreciating You, Deal-Breakers, You Can’t Be ‘The Solution’

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 32, I get into: Deal-breakers: When we’re not attracted to somebody, we can often find umpteen reasons to make our exit (unless we’re the type that feels guilty for not being...
Sometimes, you just don’t have anymore energy left to explain why you’re stepping back (especially when they actually know why)

Sometimes, you just don’t have anymore energy left to explain why you’re stepping back (especially when they actually know why)

Sometimes we can find ourselves in the position of knowing about what someone has done and not having the energy to get into some big ‘ole thing about it. It’s not because we’re letting it slide or that we’re too afraid to deal with it; it’s more that due to what we...
Great on paper, not so great in reality: Why superficial reasons don’t carry much weight with deep decisions

Great on paper, not so great in reality: Why superficial reasons don’t carry much weight with deep decisions

House hunting has reminded me of my last post, Appearance isn’t the same as worth. Each day we look at properties on the likes of Rightmove and Zoopla. We’re immersed in photos, floorplans and descriptions, some that are well written and others that...
If you have core values issues, you have compatibility issues

If you have core values issues, you have compatibility issues

A few months back while creating a class for one of my courses, I decided to conduct an experiment on me and note what I used to look for in a partner and the list…. was short and very embarrassing. Good looking but not a necessity if they 1) pursued me hard...