Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment

Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment

Many people protest about how “super busy” they are – I’ve been guilty of this at times myself – and I regularly hear the, “I don’t have time for dating” and “I don’t have time for a relationship”...

Revisited: Behind every excuse lies the real reason

  Don’t forget that I’m on a ‘break’ until September so I will mostly be featuring some of yours and my favourite posts from the archives. One of the things that I’ve recognised as a differentiator between healthy and unhealthy...

What Does a Person Really Have To Do If We’re Willing To Excuse & Explain Away Everything?

Recently while talking with friends, I was struck by how much time is spent explaining away and hypothesising on another person’s behaviour. Literally an hour had gone by and a serious amount of excuses and debating had been going on. “He’s a really...

Being Super-Busy: The Modern Lame Excuse For Managing Down Your Expectations

“He’s really busy right now” “She’s got a really important job” “They travel a lot” “They’re just insanely busy” “He said he hasn’t had five minutes” You know, I’m not disputing...
Sitting On The Fence: The Position You Adopt When You Fear Making Mistakes By Committing To Decisions

Sitting On The Fence: The Position You Adopt When You Fear Making Mistakes By Committing To Decisions

When you have issues with commitment of any kind, there is this perennial fear that if you make the decision that you’ll get it ‘wrong’ and then it’s like a black mark on your ‘life resume’ or it can’t be undone or managed, and your whole life will go down the tube...