The Hidden Link Between People Pleasing and Feeling Unworthy in Love

When you don’t feel worthy of a healthy, available relationship, it’s not unusual to find yourself in unavailable and shady relationships. Believing on some level that you’re not good enough causes emotional unavailability (on your end), so you’re inadvertently drawn...

Emotional Guardedness Can Be a Block to Healthy, Loving Relationships

Do you feel guarded after a negative experience due to struggling, on some level, to forgive yourself? When dating or in a relationship, is your overriding concern the fear of being hurt again? If so, you have walls. Fear of the emotional consequences of trusting...

Living With Excessive Fear Blocks Love, Care, Trust and Respect

Fear plays a crucial role in alerting us to situations where self-care is necessary. Notifying you of a possible threat, it blocks love when you don’t distinguish between real and imagined threats or between past and present experiences and...

Letting Go of the Control Reins: The Path to True Emotional Autonomy

We humans love being in control. We fear uncertainty, not being liked, being unable to handle situations, and leaving our [uncomfortable] comfort zones. As a result, we develop habits aimed at influencing and controlling other people’s feelings and behaviour, and...
The Relationship or Situation Not Working Might Hurt, but It Isn’t a ‘Waste’

The Relationship or Situation Not Working Might Hurt, but It Isn’t a ‘Waste’

When you feel hurt and disappointed, a deep sense of loss can kick in. Like when you’re in the aftermath of a breakup. You might believe that your efforts were a waste because you may have invested months or years. Or maybe you compromised yourself by doing...