Podcast Ep. 179: Better The Devil You Know?

When an ex who didn’t treat us with love, care, trust and respect starts saying ‘all the right things’, it’s all-too-easy to be nostalgic. Next thing, we’re plotting our fairy-tale ending and possibly sacking off new relationships,...
Advice: Why Did He Agree To Meet Me After 20 Years Just To Mess Me About?

Advice: Why Did He Agree To Meet Me After 20 Years Just To Mess Me About?

Alison asks: I recently visited a friend I hadn’t seen in twenty years. We had the briefest of hook-ups a long time ago that I vaguely remember as him not being able to ‘perform’, but it was still loving and caring. He’s smart, funny, insightful and back then gave me...

Sometimes Embarrassment / Shame Stops A Person From Making Attempts To Remedy A Situation Or Get In Touch

Have you ever felt so embarrassed about something (or even ashamed) that you try to avoid any and everything to do with it? I remember walking by St Stephen’s Green in Dublin and seeing a guy who I had an ambiguous flirtation going on with. Strutting in my wedge...
Are You Too Eager For The Fairy Tale ‘Ending’? The Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ Revisited

Are You Too Eager For The Fairy Tale ‘Ending’? The Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ Revisited

; Back in 2009, following what at the time I considered to be an alarming number of emails and comments from readers who had been burned by an ex that had contacted them via their alumni site or Facebook, I wrote about the trap of the returning childhood...

When Your Ex Returns AGAIN, It’s An Opportunity To Do Right By You

Five years ago, a reader got in touch after her Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ breezed back into her life after nearly 20 years, Future Faked and Fast Forwarded her off her feet, gradually started to blow lukewarm, then cold, and then unceremoniously...