Dating and avoiding getting hurt while seeking physical affection in a casual relationship

When we carry hurt from previous dating and relationship experiences, we become guarded. We think what we’re doing is having boundaries when, in fact, our guardedness is our wall. It’s not unusual, though, to soon find ourselves between a rock and a hard...
Why You’re Catching Feelings When It’s Supposed to Be ‘Just’ Casual Sex

Why You’re Catching Feelings When It’s Supposed to Be ‘Just’ Casual Sex

Sometimes we want to have sex, but understandably, we might not want to wait until we’re in a relationship for that to happen. In theory, we should be able to sleep with someone without it needing to be complicated by getting to know them too much (or at all),...
Podcast Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships

Podcast Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships

I mentioned my love of the TV adaption of Sally Rooney’s novel, Normal People, on Instagram Stories last week. Boy, did I get a lot of replies! People were ‘shook’ by the portrayal of a casual (and sometimes secret) relationship mixed with a...
The Pop-Up Relationship: The Temporary Romance That Expires & Never Develops

The Pop-Up Relationship: The Temporary Romance That Expires & Never Develops

Have you ever spent time with somebody who gives amazing date, yet afterwards, it’s crickets? I did that on and off for four years. If you’d met us on dates, you’d be forgiven for thinking we were madly in love. Wearing the face off each other; barely able to keep our...
Is Your Next Logical Step The Same As Theirs?

Is Your Next Logical Step The Same As Theirs?

Way back in the day when I used to work in media sales, we talked a lot about building rapport with clients, getting to understand their needs, and matching them up, where relevant, with the right products to help them grow their business. I learned very quickly about...