It’s that time of the week again – there’s a new episode of my podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. I can’t believe it’s been eight weeks already!
Those inappropriate and insensitive remarks to singles: When I was single, I felt like one of those bad date clowns because I would see people at social events and they’d expect to be entertained with my latest dating debacle. I also found that like a lot of people, I was questioned a hell of a lot about my choices and had my private life prodded and poked into. Turns out, not much has changed since then and I really feel for singles who encounter this so I offer my take and some suggestions for not letting these folks get to you.
Do we ever ‘get over’ abandonment and abuse?: This is one of my most frequently asked questions but it’s a question that needs to be rephrased as we may be tasking ourselves with something that gives us the impression of arriving at a particular destination. I talk about what has helped me alter my perspective and heal.
Why do we keep saying how guilty we feel?: I talk about guilt and the importance of not just ascertaining whether you’re actually guilty of something but also ensuring that you don’t end up bathing in guilt (and avoiding taking action) and instead, use the emotion to do something positive that will help you to learn from the experience and move forward.
Listener Question – Should I tell my friend’s friend how annoyed she is?: When a friend complains about a mutual friend who you’re not that close with and you feel badly for him/her, it can be tempting to get involved to help your friend address the situation and feel better but don’t – the messenger is likely to be shot!
What Nat Learned This Week: I do wonder why I have a paper diary and a calender synced up across all devices if I still end up overscheduling myself because I’m looking at a day rather than looking at the context of the week. Doh!
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Great Podcast:I haven’t been keeping up with your work, Natalie and I miss it. I ordered your Self-Soothe eBook bundle and this Podcast was perfect for me; especially the abandonment section. Thank You!
I am consistently blown away by your writing and I appreciate how you are always innovating. Not a small amount of work. Thanks, Natalie.
Another great podcast Natalie.
Thank you.. 🙂
Thank you so much, Natalie! I learn so much from your writing and your poscasts. This time I learned that all my behavioral analysis (I should have a degree in this field by now 🙂 is to understand and prove that I am not to blame. I had not made that connection! So helpful!
I have come to understand the masochism involved in returning to people who clearly don’t care about me. I just realized the other day, through reading, that my masochism lies in the ***when other people fail me, I blame me***
I had never heard it/seen it spelled out so plainly. I got it. Finally! 🙂
Thanks again, the podcasts just keep getting better!
XO Veracity
Thanks again Nat, you keep bringing the heat! The bit on abandonment shook me up. Man, all this working on oneself is a challenge!
Hi Natalie, radio 4 did a programme on the status of single and how it is regarding in society (especially towards women) as something to pity, it also looks at how the dating landscape has changed, worth a listen