Why Me and Not Them?

by | Boundaries

When it appears that someone presents an entirely different persona to the outside world than what they do with you, it messes with your head when you 1) blame you for their treatment, or you 2) question whether you’re imagining what you’re experiencing,...
Acknowledge your blind spots around compatibility

Acknowledge your blind spots around compatibility

by | Self

Have you ever felt as if someone was going to be or do certain things only to be surprised about how far off base you are? While this may have come about due to proclamations and promises on their part, if your hopes and expectations stemmed from your own vision of...

There’s a difference between personality and character

by | Self

Earlier this year, I explained how ‘charming’ tends to be a precursor to code red problems. Mistaking charm for being indicative of other characteristics and values is an example of where we fall into the trap of mistaking personality for character, which is...