Despite ‘Good Points’, We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

Despite ‘Good Points’, We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

Any toxic relationship I’ve been involved in has always kept going because of my essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember about the person and the relationship, romantic or otherwise. While I spent most of my life feeling wounded by my father’s...

Are you sabotaging yourself by not allowing you to be happy?

Penny intended to feel on top of the world but ended up getting in her own way. She aced it when she’d showcased her work to respected people within her industry but enjoyed that feeling for all of a hot minute because she ended up ‘celebrating’ with Mr...
Understanding why an ex is spreading misinformation about you (or building a case against you to break up)

Understanding why an ex is spreading misinformation about you (or building a case against you to break up)

Breakups, even expected and mutual ones, often feel like a kick a teeth, but a breakup feels like a mugging when it comes to light that our ex has been in effect, poisoning the waters by saying things about us that are not true or are certainly exaggerated. Why would...
“Charming” tends to be a precursor to code red problems

“Charming” tends to be a precursor to code red problems

Each and every time someone shares a story with me where the object of their affections (and their pain) is described as “charming”, I already know the rest of the story without them having to utter another word. My spidey senses go “O-oh!” and...

When someone blanks you / disappears & then reappears to ask a favour of you, it’s OK to say no

Something that many people, especially those with people-pleasing inclinations struggle with, is what to do when someone who disappeared reappears to ask a favour. They want support, help, kindness and basically generosity beyond what they’re due and what the...