Jumping into relationships and belatedly realising commitment is involved

Being on the receiving end of not just someone’s intense interest in and attraction to us, but their seeming desire to jump into a relationship, can be pretty intoxicating. The intensity creates this romance of false intimacy, and we think we’ve jumped into a fairy...
They Didn’t Change; You Just Got To Know Them

They Didn’t Change; You Just Got To Know Them

Picture it, Sharm El Sheikh, Egypt, 2005 (pulling my best Sophia from Golden Girls imitation). It’s just one month the epiphany that changed my life and a couple of months before I started Baggage Reclaim. I’m on holiday with one of my best pals, and...
Advice: Why Did He Agree To Meet Me After 20 Years Just To Mess Me About?

Advice: Why Did He Agree To Meet Me After 20 Years Just To Mess Me About?

Alison asks: I recently visited a friend I hadn’t seen in twenty years. We had the briefest of hook-ups a long time ago that I vaguely remember as him not being able to ‘perform’, but it was still loving and caring. He’s smart, funny, insightful and back then gave me...
Advice Wednesday: I Tried To Escape My Grief With An Affair–What Do I Do Now?

Advice Wednesday: I Tried To Escape My Grief With An Affair–What Do I Do Now?

Salma asks: I recently miscarried. My husband wasn’t supportive and we’d been having problems for a while. I felt useless, ugly and to cut a long story short, ended up meeting an attached man online. I told him I was not looking for anything but friendship...
Advice Wednesday: Am I ‘The Bridge’ For The Christian Woman I Share So Much In Common With?

Advice Wednesday: Am I ‘The Bridge’ For The Christian Woman I Share So Much In Common With?

Kevin asks: Two weeks ago, a female employee, 21 (I’m 29), who I’d become good acquaintances with, handed in her notice. Prior to this, I’d never considered a relationship with her. That day, there was a big concert for a Christian worship band that we’re both fans...