It’s Not Fair!

It’s Not Fair!

Why am I still stuck?, is a question that I’m asked pretty much every day by people who find it difficult to move past somebody or something not living up to their hopes and expectations. They are gutted by disappointment and struggling to keep their head above...
Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning the other person’s actions

Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning the other person’s actions

As I continue making peace with my past and recognising younger parts of me that still hurt and remember, I am committed to being self-compassionate and learning from when I’m not. I’m also committed to not letting my past and those in it, rob me of my...

Birthday thoughts: 36 things that I’ve learned about life, love and self-esteem

On Sunday I turned 36, which I celebrated with a party on Saturday. As it turned midnight, I was singing Return of the Mack on the karaoke machine (we have a Lucky Voice set which means we can have impromptu karaoke sessions) plus earlier in the evening, one of my...
Getting Blinded By Your Principles

Getting Blinded By Your Principles

It’s the principle of the matter. Why should they get away with making a mug out of me?It’s the principle! They said that they loved me/would do _______! And I’ll be damned if they get away without delivering. I would never do/say _________ if I...

When Someone Bails / Pulls The Slow Fade After You Say That You’re Not Ready To Sleep With Them Yet

While reading yet more tales of They Bailed / Started Pulling The Slow Fade After I Said I Wanted To Take My Time Before Sleeping With Him/Her, it occurred to me that the type of person who goes from super-interested to crickets / unable to be pinned down to a date...