Do we really want closure, or are we trying to win at proving we’re a Good Person?

When we’re a people pleaser, perfectionist or overthinker who’s likely been prone to overgiving and over-responsibility, there can be a tendency to want to control endings, including how the other party perceives us. We go through a break-up or have a...

You Don’t Have To Gain Agreement Or Acknowledgment In Order To Let Go & Move On

Forgiveness and closure is something that many struggle with, often because it feels like any other parties involved ‘need’ to be in agreement about our perception of things and to acknowledge where they’ve gone wrong. When there are unanswered...
How Much Time Are You Actually Spending Thinking About YOU?

How Much Time Are You Actually Spending Thinking About YOU?

I get a lot of emails that have a couple of recurring themes: that they either can’t get over someone and/or they have been trying their damndest to get on with their lives/love themselves but it’s still not happening. While sometimes it comes down to...

Walking Through Your Relationship and Observing & Acknowledging The Signs You Missed First Time Around

You know those situations where you want to die of mortification or at the very least, freeze everyone and wipe the last few moments from their memory? Yeah, I had one of those a few weeks back. I accidentally told someone that their boyfriend is, in fact, married not...

Breaking Up With No Reason

Right now somebody somewhere is being broken up with. It’s horrible, it hurts, it can be devastating, and it can feel like a kick in the nuts, even if you’re not in possession of a penis and two testicles! One of the difficult things about break-ups is the...