Podcast Ep. 209: The Compatibility Factor

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is on one of my favourite topics: compatibility, our ability to co-exist harmoniously with someone or something. If we don’t choose our relationships from a place of honouring our core values, so who we...
This is why that connection isn’t shorthand for “I know you”

This is why that connection isn’t shorthand for “I know you”

A critical component of character, life skills and healthy interpersonal relationships is empathy. This is stepping outside of yourself and putting you in another person’s shoes so that you can consider their position. You have to do it, though, without losing...

Podcast Ep. 127: “Bark like a dog” and your ‘dating and relationship self’

When you go on dates or are in a relationship, who shows up? Is it you, the whole you and nothing but the you? Or is it your representative, the persona you send out that’s a glossier or more watered-down version of you that you think does the best job of selling you...
If You’re Going To Be Afraid of ‘Settling’, Be Afraid of Settling For Pattern

If You’re Going To Be Afraid of ‘Settling’, Be Afraid of Settling For Pattern

One of the things that used to put the big-time fear into me was ‘settling’. No way was I gonna find myself with some ‘nice guy’ that bored the bejaysus out of me. I wanted love and what I was used to looking for and feeling. This meant that...
A ‘connection’ or having ‘so much in common’ isn’t the same as intimacy

A ‘connection’ or having ‘so much in common’ isn’t the same as intimacy

“We have an amazing connection”, insist so many people who are struggling to understand why they’re not experiencing deep, committed, loving, progressing, balanced, consistent relationships with the very people that they’re referring to....