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Did they just do a U-turn? When a person overestimates their level of interest or capacity for commitment

When we’re not boundaried with our time and we tell people what we think that they want to hear, we can end up overcommitted, over-scheduled, and overwhelmed. It’s a time management issue stemming from people pleasing – a mix of relieving tension (even if it’s...

Despite ‘Good Points’, We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

by NATALIE | Values & Compatibility

Any toxic relationship I’ve been involved in has always kept going because of my essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember about the person and the relationship, romantic or otherwise. While I spent most of my life feeling wounded by my father’s...

Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image

by NATALIE | Emotional Unavailability

One of the most popular subjects on Baggage Reclaim is the area of when people overestimate their capacity to be or do something, or overestimate their level of interest. When done habitually whether it’s with one person or across several relationships,...

Commitment: If they can’t show up for the basics, they won’t be able to show up for the long haul

by NATALIE | Healthier Relationships

So many people who feel twitchy about commitment say stuff like, “Natalie, it’s too much to expect somebody to know if they want to commit in the early stages of the a relationship”, which is the same as saying, “It’s too much to expect a...

Don’t confuse what you want to avoid with being the same as what you desire or need

by NATALIE | The BS Diet

Awareness of how we truly want to feel and the path we want to walk is crucial for ensuring that we don’t be and do things that inadvertently take us away from those very things. Too often, we focus on what we want to avoid. The actions and thinking that go into...

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Despite ‘Good Points’, We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image

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Despite ‘Good Points’, We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image

Commitment: If they can’t show up for the basics, they won’t be able to show up for the long haul

Don’t confuse what you want to avoid with being the same as what you desire or need

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