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If someone has truly changed, there’s growth and a change in their habits

Over the years of writing BR, I’ve covered the issue of what to consider when someone is saying that they’ve changed and like all subjects I cover, I’m always looking for new ways to bring clarity to the situations and decisions that perplex us....

Are you overfeeding your worry and fear ‘goldfish’?

by NATALIE | Happiness & Self-Esteem

We have a pet goldfish, Sophie, who Em would overfeed given half the chance because it’s as if every time she rustles around in the bowl when she sees him, he interprets it as a sign to feed her. Goldfish don’t know when they’re full so they will eat...

Are you still trying to right the wrongs of the past?

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

I got talking to someone recently who shared her childhood experience of growing up in a home where no boundaries were allowed. Opinions and feelings were ignored and disregarded, voicing concerns and discussing problems was a no-no and any perceived slight or...

Calming That Anxiety: When You Feel Jittery In a New Relationship

by NATALIE | Dating

It’s not uncommon to experience jitters in a new relationship, and sometimes we think that we need to eliminate anxiety to know if we can date at all. There’s a lot to be said for “You won’t know until you go out there and try.” Trouble...

Sometimes You’ve Got To Reteach People What To Expect From You

by NATALIE | Boundaries

If like me you’ve ever had that uncomfortable realisation that someone has come to expect that you’ll be or do something that doesn’t work for you even though it works for them, it’s one of those sobering realisations that we teach people what...

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