Why not?

October 10, 2005 by NML

“Would you like to dance?” he asks.
“No thank you” she replies.
“Why not?”

This question is posed by guys when they don’t get the answer that they want to hear when trying to get the attentions of a woman. As a general guide, women don’t want to have to explain why they don’t want to acknowledge, talk to, dance with etc, a guy who has approached them whilst they are out. Now let me break something to any guy that is doing the whole ‘why’ not thing.
You have no idea who this woman is and I am loathe to believe that a woman who has politely said no to your request is going to have you sobbing in the toilets. When a woman says no, she means no. If we had to explain to every Tom, Dick and Harry why we don’t want to dance, don’t want to talk them, don’t want to whatever it is you are asking we would never be able to get on and enjoy our night.
“Why not?” reeks of a man who is being facetious and a pain in the arse. The sole purpose of this question is to soothe his dented ego whilst being incredibly irritating. Following up this silly question by badgering the woman makes the guy deserving of the frosty reception he undoubtedly deserves.

I hear guys moaning about how this woman and that woman wouldn’t give him the time of day. There is no God given rule that because a guy has done a bit of ‘Ib, dib, sky, blue’ and zeroed in a woman that she has to give him the time of day. They think that the fact that they have bestowed their attentions on a woman should mean automatic acceptance regardless of whatever she wants.

These guys that ask this question are behaving like door-to-door sales men that won’t take their foot out of the doorway. When asking a woman a question and it gets the “No” response, it might be a wise idea for men to let go of their ’sales training’ and stop trying to ‘handle her objection’. Trust me - All she’s objecting to is the fact that the guy is still there, wanting more information from her.

So guys, accept the answer and move on. There is undoubtedly a woman out there that will say yes and when she does, it’s exactly what she means and you don’t have to ask silly questions about her answer and look like a dick, which can only mean good things…..

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