This is a quick one, but I wanted to say merry Christmas and happy holidays to you all. I’ll be back in the next day or so, but remember to read ten Christmas survival tips for the heartbroken and lovers of assclowns and Mr Unavailables (also part two) if you’re in pain, wavering on making contact, or have already wavered.
Over the last week, there have been a few posts that coincide with some of the emotions and experiences that you may be going through, such as, if you have to wonder if your man is going to spend Christmas with you…run!
I would suggest that if you don’t know the score by now, that you should make other plans. Never be someone’s back up option or last resort that they can just call up and expect you to jump to their beat.
Also read resisting the temptation of making contact with your ex at Christmas, understanding when someoneone fakes a future with you, your love doesn’t equal their love, and how he’s not thinking about the future.
Other helpful reading includes: How I learned to love myself parts one and two.
But more importantly, go spend Christmas with someone who gives a damn about you. Hell, go and enjoy your Christmas! Enjoy YOU! Park whoever is on your mind, breathe out and enjoy yourself!
Don’t lose this time in a haze of wondering if he’ll call, text, or email, or jumping every time your phone rings, or fending off questions from your family and friends about why you look so miserable or why you keep going into the other room. Don’t isolate yourself because imposing that on you will cause you to seek sustenance from the very thing that detracts from you.
I’m off to hang with the kids and the boyf but after Christmas I will bear good tidings. Back in a couple of days.
Hugs, Natalie/NML xxx
PS, I’ve had quite a few emails asking about the kids who are now just over 8 months and 2.5 years so here is a pic of the divas!
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The girls look darling – thanks for sharing the picture, NML :)!
Merry Christams and Happy New Year 2010 to you.
Thank you a zillion trillion times for all the wonderful advice/insights/WISE suggestions and HEART-STRENGTHENING support you provide so generously all year long !
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So darned cute!!
NML, Thank you so much for getting me through the past 3.5 months. Thanks to you, counseling, friends, books, etc… I am happier than I have been in longer than I can remember and I think I FINALLY get it, I FINALLY know what it means to love and accept myself. Everything happens for a reason and I believe this assclown came back three times, because I am a slow learner and didnt get that lesson the first time. But, now I know and I have learned the lesson I was supposed to learn. I am so grateful for this site! Happy Holidays!
They look absolutely scrumptious. 🙂 More little girls to take over the world. 🙂
Enjoy the holiday season.
Merry Christmas to you and yours, Natalie! Your daughters are beautiful!!!
And an extra special thank you for all you do with this site. It’s made a huge difference in my life this year…. 🙂
Your children are so beautiful. MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family Natalie! Thank you for creating this site and helping us to understand exactly what we’ve been dealing with and how to stop the pain and rebuild our lives. God Bless you for your insight and words of wisdom. It’s been a life saver for me to know that I’m not crazy and I’m not alone. I truly appreciate your support and from all the people that frequent this site.
Merriest of Christmases to you and your lovely family, NML!
And thank you for all of the wise words you offer on this site! The google search that brought me here was one of the best gifts I’ve given to myself in a long, long time.
Your success story is our inspiration! A wonderful holiday to you and yours!
Thanks for this site, I too found it by accident and its been a life saver. Looking forward to reading lots more in 2010. Merry Christmas !!!!!
Thank you so much for the great advice. Now it all seems a lot clearer and I am so much happier than I have been in ages.
Have a wonderful Christmas. x
Merry merry Christmas NML and to your adorable family 🙂
Thanks for the last two years!!
kisses and hugs to all
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Thank you so very much for you sharing with us a snip of you. Your kids are absolutely beautiful, and look at that gorgeous chubby cutie chewing on her back had, awww. God Bless them and watch over them always!
Yes, I must confess that I have checked my mail box hoping for a holiday card from PWT a/k/a jerk ass wipe, but none seen. No contact is best I gather, but still…..my heart hurts and wants.
Happy Christmas Natalie and your lovely family!!! Your daughters are so cute, lucky you!!!
I wish you all the best, and yet again thank you for everything!!!
Merry Christmas Natalie and thank you for all the help you have provided us all those years 🙂
One thing that really helped me last year when I was finally NC around the holiday was to just enjoy any and all kids that were around me. My own two boys are older teens now 16, and 19, but there are a lot of little ones at my church, and a few in my family, and somehow if you just focus on hanging out with them and catching their joy, play with their toys or a game with them or sit and read a book together or watch a video, it can really put a bright spot on a rough day!
Thank you for posting that picture, too! Wow, your girls are so sweet and happy looking! Obviously loved very much!
Absolutely gorgeous little girls,Natalie! A very, very happy Christmas to you and yours.Thank you so very much for all the inspiring help and advice, which, along with this site, has also saved me and brought me face to face with the me that I was and that I no longer wanted to be.After my spectacular relapse in September when I was urgently SOS ing you, I am in such a better place now. In fact the relapse was my epiphany,I really had to put my hand back into the fire to be very clear that it BURNS. And there are so many better things to be doing than self destructing over an assclown. So thanks again and merry xmas to all.
OHHH, hose kids are adorable NML, but even better is they will be raised to be stable wise women of the next generation. That pic makes me remember that most all of us knew the innocence of pure joy long ago, before the various areseclowns of the world showed us the dark side. Yet, I believe it is it is in our abilities to know that state of pure joy even in our complicated adult lives; watching and experiencing with the little ones is one way to help get us in touch with it. Let’s always work to know joy in us, and also to protect the joy in kids’ lives. Happy, Joyous New Year all BR’s :- )
Natalie, your girls are so sweet. Thank you for sharing this picture with us. I know you are a great mom with so much wisdom to guide your young little ladies because you are so great in guiding all of us. Thank you for all that you have given.
All the best for the holidays and have a wonderful New Year…
They’re lovely! Thanks so much for sharing your helpful and kind advice. I’ve only just found you in the last couple of weeks, but you’ve already helped me put things in perspective!
All the best for 2010.
Beautiful babies, such a blessing!
Absolutely beautiful little ones! Thanks for keeping it real in 2009. Here’s to 2010! Much love and blessings!