The BS Diet
- Don’t Opt For Social Proof Over Your Own Assessment of Someone
- The Reset Button and Just Move On and Fuggedaboudit
- Um, *Why* Are You Telling Me This? [When Exes & ‘Friends’ Tell You Stuff You *Really* Don’t Need To Know]
- If they lie to themselves, why are they going to be honest with us?
- Super Late: How we treat time says a lot about how much we respect other people’s time
- Admit The Cover-Up & Stop Overcompensating
- Dodging People’s Projections: It’s Not About Us. Really.
- If They Won’t Cosign To The Truth, It Doesn’t Invalidate It
- The more assumptions you make, the more misunderstandings you have to deal with (Mo’ Assumptions, Mo’ Problems)
- Don’t confuse what you want to avoid with being the same as what you desire or need
- It’s Not Your Intuition That Misleads You – Evaluate The Reasoning and Knowledge Applied
- Being loyal is a great quality – don’t mix it up with servitude
- How our perceived entitlement to what we want is keeping us stuck and why we need to challenge what we believe we’re owed
- We can’t keep trying to recapture the beginning of a relationship; we’ve got the present to live in
- When you’re met with the You’re The First / You’re The Only One With A Problem defense
- Telling people what we think they want to hear leads to resentment on all sides
- Drip-Feeding: When you get the truth (or lies) in installments
- When someone wants you to devalue yourself in a relationship based on their previous experiences with somebody else
- Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment
- Stop letting December stress you out! It’s JUST Christmas!
- Our imaginations can do a very good job of scaring us and creating Dynasty levels of drama in our heads
- Do you have an Overactive Guilt Thyroid? Why it’s time to lose the misplaced sense of obligation over birthday greetings to exes, text replies etc
- There’s a big difference between giving the benefit of the doubt and giving the benefit of magic eraser
- Why it’s time to stop telling people what they want to hear (or what we *think* they want to hear)
- Revisited: Behind every excuse lies the real reason
- Even if you have a positive attitude, you still won’t be capable of Jedi mind tricking people into being and doing what you want
- Why telling ‘little lies’ can end up mattering in a big way
- Is it love? Or is it glorification? Stop pumping them up & take down that pedestal!
- Criticism isn’t the same as rejection. Yes, really.
- If someone has truly changed, there’s growth and a change in their habits
- You’re not going to crazy-make me! Why I won’t be making sense out of nonsense and you shouldn’t either!
- Revisited: The Truth About Intentions
- The BS Diet: Natural Consequences & Why You Need To Stop The Big Cover-Up
- Your Situation May Feel ‘Unique’ But Really, It’s Not Unique In Literally Being the Only One of Its Kind
- What’s the problem with saying NO? When you have negative associations with NO
- If you feel bad after you ‘help’, it probably wasn’t ‘helping’ (Why it’s good to stay out of Other People’s Business)
- Your Frustrations With Others Provides Insight Into Where You May Need To Adapt
- I want to be liked but I don’t want to be liked THAT much: Why you’re just not THAT desperate to be liked
- The Trouble With Lying & Cheating (Why you need to stick to a low BS diet)
- Just Because Someone Says Something, It Doesn’t Make It So (Don’t let them use BS to blame you)
- Getting Committed About Commitment: There’s No Such Thing As a Decision-Free Lifestyle
- When You Feel Under Pressure From Family To ‘Forget’ a Drama Just In Time For The Holidays
- If You’re Being What You Think Is a ‘Good’ Girlfriend/Boyfriend, Are You Actually Being You?
- When You Think Somebody’s Mad At You… Even When You Haven’t Done Anything
- It’s What Comes After The “But…” That Counts
- Are You Being ‘Too Sensitive’?
- Honesty’s Got To Cut Both Ways
- “I can’t believe they’ve changed – What’s wrong with me?”
- Are You Being ‘Nice’ & Passive To ‘Win’ a Relationship? Why Losing The Hidden Agenda Will Let You Be You
- Sometimes Embarrassment / Shame Stops A Person From Making Attempts To Remedy A Situation Or Get In Touch
- “If It Were Me, I’d….” When You’re Perplexed By People Not Acting As You Would
- Do I Have A Sign On My Forehead Or Something? NO, It’s The Time Of Day Principle
- You’re Not In Pretty Woman: Do You Believe In The Booty Call ‘Fairy Tale’?
- You Just Don’t Have That Kind Of Power: You Haven’t ‘Made’ Someone Be Or Do Something
- Which Do You Prefer – The Problem or The Solution?
- The Truth About Porkies: Are you comfortable with being lied to?
- Why it’s time to stop telling yourself that the last chance saloon has gone
- Stop Pumping Them Up! They’re Really Just Not That Special!
- Are You Future Faking Yourself For a Short-Term Fix?
- Are you worried about being ‘good enough’ for something you don’t want or are not even doing?
- Those Who Doth Protest Too Much: Stop ‘advertising’ and just ‘be’
- The Futility of Pursuing the Last Word
- Don’t Let Excuses Keep You in an Unavailable or Shady Relationship
- Revisited: The Madness of Making Assumptions in Dating & Relationships
- Overused Word Alert: Let’s Talk About Being ‘Needy’
- Sometimes ‘Sorry’ means ‘Hurry the hell up & accept my apology so I can stop feeling bad about it’
- Why You Need To Drop The ‘But nobody’s perfect! We all have baggage!’ Argument
- They’re Just Not THAT Special and Why Putting People On Pedestals Makes Them Think They Can Do Better Than YOU
- Why You Need To Drop Convincing Out of Your Relationships
- Jedi mind tricks – Why we’ve got to stop claiming force & influence over other people’s actions
- The BS Diet – Why you need to stop denying, minimising, and rationalising
- The Ruse: Lying but claiming they can prove it’s the truth
- It’s Just Cake: Why you should be careful of reading too much into things
- I Believe In Being Honest…As Long as It’s What I Want to Hear: Can you handle the truth?
- Is It Time To Go On a BS Diet?
- To Tell The Truth: The Frustration of Dealing With Someone Who Lies About Your Relationship Or Their Contribution
- How Bad Do Things Have To Get?
- Telling Them All About Themselves – Why It’s Not Your Job To List Their Flaws and Crimes
- Unhooking Yourself From the Picture of Your Relationship
- Assessing the Threat Level: Working Out Whether Your Fears Are Genuine or Misplaced
- How Important Is It For You To Be The Good Girl?
- Stripping The Excuse Out of The Excuses in Dating & Relationships
- Myth: There Are No Good Men to Date (Especially when online dating) Part 2
- When Someone Keeps Pressing the Reset Button on their Behaviour in Relationships
- Holding on to the illusion: Are you emotionally lazy?
- Overthinking What Men Say & Do: Applying meaning where there is no meaning
- Dropping the illusion of words to be action focused in your relationships
- Are men really like rubber bands? Er…No (Part One)
- Are you a Responsibility Dodger or a ‘But Girl’ caught in your own ‘Relationship Insanity’?
- Keeping It Real About Valentines Day
- Recognising Things About Yourself In the Man You Profess to Love Part 2
- Recognising Things About Yourself In the Man You Profess to Love – Part 1
- Why do we throw ourselves at bad relationships and then wonder why it hurts?
- Shades of Grey: Rationalising Your Involvement in a Poor Relationship
- Guest Post: You can be a ‘Nice Guy’ but I need you to keep your balls and be a ‘man’
- Bad Relationship AND Bad Sex – Say what?
- Are we waiting for a fairy tale happy ending?
- What to say when someone asks: Why aren’t you married yet?
- Actions speak louder than words – What has he done for you lately?
- Does The Perfect Man Exist?
- Playing Games in Relationships
- Relationship Advice – Is my boyfriend gay?
- What type of bitching are you indulging in?
- Rules for ‘Honesty’ in Relationships
- The Dicks Before Chicks Phenomenon
- Get Real About Being ‘Nice’ in Relationships
- More on the BS Meter
- Are you faking it? Why you shouldn’t waste your time faking orgasms?
- We’re Hearing But We’re Not Listening: Turn On the BS Meter
- Guest Post: Double Standards Part II
- Stop Obsessing over How Men Communicate
- Drawing the Line: Cheating is Cheating
- Why Are You Still Single?
- Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?
Values & Compatibility
- Not Following Through With Your Values Is Like Washing Your Front But Not Your Back
- Advice Wednesday: Am I ‘The Bridge’ For The Christian Woman I Share So Much In Common With?
- We Must Own Ourselves So That We Stop Giving In To Peer Pressure
- It’s Just The One Chocolate Bar. It’s Just The One Values and Boundaries Bust. Or is it?
- Acknowledge your blind spots around compatibility
- Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values
- A ‘connection’ or having ‘so much in common’ isn’t the same as intimacy
- There’s a difference between personality and character
- Despite ‘good points’, we deal with the consequences of people coming as full packages
- Judging Isn’t The Same As Guessing: Why it’s time to stop giving you a hard time for being a bad guesser of character
- “Charming” tends to be a precursor to code red problems
- Don’t be bewildered by why somebody doesn’t think and act as you do – you’re very different individual entities
- What being screwed over on a house taught me about living up to your values and commitment
- Great on paper, not so great in reality: Why superficial reasons don’t carry much weight with deep decisions
- Appearance isn’t the same as worth
- Revisited: Values & Being Valued In Relationships – Your Value Is As Good As How You Treat You
- When somebody says one thing, does another, thinks something else
- It’s OK to want different things. It doesn’t make you ‘wrong’!
- Getting Blinded By Your Principles
- People Unfold: Let Go Of the Assumptions & Expectations ‘Snapshot’ & Get To Know Someone
- If you have core values issues, you have compatibility issues
- Your Relationships Provide a Window Into Understanding What You *Need*
- Are You Being Blinded By ‘Good Points’?
- Treat You As You Want & Expect Others To Treat You
- Are You Living By YOUR Values In Your Relationships? They May Be Great On Illusionary Paper, But Where Are The Shared Values?
- Stop The ASSumptions: 28 Dodgy Reasons People Give For Choosing Someone For A Relationship
- How Buying My Wedding Dress Ended Up Giving Me A Refresher Course On Commitment & ‘Chemistry’
- The Trouble With Being Blinded By Appearance in Dating & Relationships
- Getting Stuck On Chemistry – That Intangible Thing You Swear You Have So Much Of
- I’m Off Mr Unavailables and Assclowns: Where will I find my passion and joy now?
- Recognising That Being Intelligent Is Not the Same As Being Relationship Smart
- Life Lessons: The Danger of Making Assumptions About People and Relationships
- Everything In Relationships is Contextual: Ask Yourself What Does This Mean To Me or Our Relationship?
- More On Sexual Values: Questions To Ask Yourself Before Embarking On Sex
- Getting To Grips With Sexual Values – Stop Trying To Revolutionise The Wheel, Chasing The Feeling + more
- Getting To Grips With Sexual Values – Avoiding Sexual Insanity, Rewarding and Gratitude and more
- Am I Too Picky? The Tricky Issue of Quality Control In Dating & Relationships (P2)
- Am I Too Picky? The Tricky Issue of Quality Control In Dating & Relationships (P1)
- Understanding your core values in relationships (no they’re not your common interests)
- Being Valued & Having Personal Values in Relationships: Discover Your Value Now (Part 3)
- Being Valued & Having Personal Values in Relationships: You Have To Be Living That Value Now (Part 2)
- Being Valued & Having Personal Values in Relationships: Your Value Is As Good As How You Treat You (Part 1)
- More Videos: But We Have So Much In Common, Why is he calling when he doesn’t want to get back together? and more…
- Why People Don’t See Their Qualities & Contributions to Relationships Accurately Part 3
- Why People Don’t See Their Qualities & Contributions to Relationships Accurately Part 2
- Why People Don’t See Their Qualities & Contributions to Relationships Accurately Part One
- Knowing When To Work At Your Relationship P2: Questions to Ask Yourself & Key Signs
- Knowing When To Work at Your Relationship Part One
- Are You Compromised In Your Relationships?
- I’m Successful! Why Am I Still Single?
- Understanding Why Relationships Don’t Always Work Out
- Overestimating the chemistry and the attraction in your relationships
- Compatibility, Your Type, and Common Interests Part 5
- Compatibility, Your Type, and Common Interests Part 4
- Compatibility, Your Type, and Common Interests Part Three
- Compatibility, Your Type, and Common Interests Part Two
- Compatibility, Your Type, and Common Interests Part One
- Trading On Your Looks & Sex Appeal Part 3
- Trading On Your Looks & Sex Appeal Part 2
- Trading On Your Looks & Sex Appeal Part 1
- Morphing: Trying to fit in too much with your man
- But we have so much in common! That shaky ‘ole common ground in relationships
- You can’t force a relationship (or attraction) with a ‘Nice Guy’
- Why don’t women enjoy a healthy relationship after leaving a damaging one?
- Reader Question: How do I know if I’m overestimating myself?
- 10 Reasons Women Choose Men…and why they shouldn’t! Part Two
- 10 Reasons Women Choose Men…and why they shouldn’t! Part One
- When You’re Not His Type, But He’s With YOU
- Keeping It Real – The Importance of Being Authentic & Accepting Your Partner For Who They Are
- In Search of Fireworks: Chasing that Special Spark
