Letting Go
- Creating Healthier Boundaries Lets You Move On and Forgive Yourself
- The Past is a Guide, Not a Verdict.
- Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All
- To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity
- Disappointment From Unmet Expectations is a Much-Needed Wake-Up Call
- The Relationship or Situation Not Working Might Hurt, but It Isn’t a ‘Waste’
- Working with Your Ex When You Don’t Want To Be Friends: How To Cope
- 11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself
- Some Parents Couldn’t Be Who We Needed, and We Need to Forgive Ourselves
- Do we really want closure, or are we trying to win at proving we’re a Good Person?
- When our friend dates our ex, is it OK, and can we be upset about it?
- Refusing self-forgiveness is just another role you play that blocks happiness
- Knowing if you’re on the right track with No Contact or getting over someone
- The story isn’t the same as the truth
- We don’t need to announce to our ex that we’re ‘over’ them or ignoring them
- A note on outgrowing friendships
- Not over your ex but hate that they’re not contacting you? Read this
- Why is your ex or their new partner ‘so happy’ on Instagram when they mistreated you?
- A breakup doesn’t equal failure
- “I thought we were soulmates”
- Repeats of painful situations invite us to learn what we didn’t before
- Rejection and disappointment are wounding when you were willing to give you up
- Do you really feel guilty, or are you hiding out?
- Yes, Silencing Grief Leads to Anger
- This is why not letting go of the wrong relationship blocks our happiness and growth
- We don’t realise how much we missed ourselves until we’re out of the painful situation
- Why you haven’t allowed you to move on: self-criticism is an expression of an unmet need
- It Doesn’t Mean That You’re Not Ready To Move On If You Still Think About Them
- I Need You To Not Play With My Affections
- Is It Time To Get Off The Rehashing Express?
- Here’s Why I Keep Coming Back
- Advice Wednesday: How Do I Begin To Make Sense of Being Catfished?
- Advice: Why Did He Agree To Meet Me After 20 Years Just To Mess Me About?
- Advice Wednesday: I Tried To Escape My Grief With An Affair–What Do I Do Now?
- Advice Wednesday: What If Grieving Takes Too Long After The End of My Engagement & My Bereavement & Then I Miss Out?
- They Had A Life Before You. Acknowledge The Backstory.
- Advice Wednesday: I Realised I Never Asked For What I Needed In My 5-Year Relationship & Want To Go Back
- Advice Wednesday: How Do I Stop Shaming Me Over My Past Relationships?
- Advice Wednesday: Will I Ever Stop Obsessing About My Ex & Find ‘The One’?
- Advice Wednesday: Even though we’ve both moved on & got married, my ex still wants to mess with my heart & my head
- Advice Wednesday #4: My Ex Exacerbated My Insecurities By Objectifying Other Women–How Do I Move On?
- How can they keep doing what they know will hurt us?
- We’re Gonna Go Back… Waaaay Back: The Ex Factor
- Forgiving Me For Abandonment
- Let the pain and the fallout be your turning point
- Dismissing those childhood experiences is akin to dismissing you
- It’s Not Fair!
- Some people just love trying to come up smelling of roses even when they leave you for someone else
- Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning the other person’s actions
- Everybody ‘bounces back’ at different rates
- When we’re afraid of letting ourselves or others ‘off the hook’
- ‘Why him/her and not me?’ Not everything is about us!
- Be careful of going on a Regret Binge as it leads to a Regret Hangover
- The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me?
- Do you have a Replacement Mentality?
- You’re not the only one who’s afraid of rejection
- Getting past disappointment: let go of the ‘fixed ideas’ that hurt you
- But Seriously, How Long Is This Going To Take? – An excerpt from The No Contact Rule (2nd edition)
- Sometimes you’ve got to treat nostalgia like a guest that’s in danger of overstaying its welcome
- When are you going to stop punishing you and allow you to move on?
- When You Hang Around Or Keep Engaging To Confirm That They Haven’t Changed
- Why does somebody not being interested HAVE to be about your worth?
- “Why aren’t I enough… for your crumbs?” When you wonder why you weren’t enough even though what was (or wasn’t) on offer sucked
- Beyond The Regret Hangover – Thoughts On Letting Go
- “I Wish I’d Done Things Differently!” – Getting Over The Regret Hangover
- Give Yourself The Gift of Self-Compassion: Stop Judging You & The Rejection Will Subside
- Revisisted: Blessings In Disguise – Be Thankful That They Didn’t Show Up and Other Things To Be Thankful For
- Getting Closure On Closure: We Cannot Always Get ALL Of The Answers
- Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup
- When Knowing That You’re Crazy About Them / In Pain Is As Good As ‘Having’ You
- Is The ‘Rejection’ Really About You? (Yep, Still Working On Letting Go)
- When You’re Convinced You’re The ONLY One That Knows The ‘Real’ Them
- They Don’t Own You: When Someone Thinks That They Have A Claim On You
- Perspective Takes The Sting Out Of Rejection: The Relationship’s Broken, You’re Not.
- Can You Forgive You?
- When You Believe That You Wouldn’t Feel, Be Or Act A Certain Way Unless It Was Love
- Moving On From Disappointment: Are you focused on the person, or on the bigger picture of your life?
- Quit Seeking A ‘ Rejection Retraction’
- One Shot – Keep it simple: If they reject you, it’s time to bounce
- The Trouble With Feeling Owed After a Relationship ‘Investment’ Goes Sour
- Fantasy vs Reality: When you struggle to differentiate between what was real and what wasn’t
- Why avoiding rejection actually opens you up to more & why it’s not always ‘rejection’
- Stop Ruminating. Stop Obsessing. Stop Over-Thinking. Very little is going to happen without ACTION.
- Set You Free: They’re Still The Same. Even If They Change, It Doesn’t Matter – You’ve Changed Too (Or You’re Going To)
- Why You’re Still Stuck On Hurt
- The Truth About Intentions – Do you really need to work out whether they intended to hurt you?
- When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you
- If Only I Could’ve: Raking over what you think were your mistakes
- Don’t They Care About Me? Didn’t I Mean Something To Them?
- After the Breakup: Hold Tight to Your Self-Respect and Stop Trying to Be Friends With the Ex That Mistreated You!
- Why don’t they want my love?
- When They Don’t Reciprocate Your interest
- I Can’t Believe They Don’t Want Me Syndrome
- Getting Over Them After a Breakup: When we wonder how long it will take to get over them or why we’re not over them yet
- What’s Your Hook? Understanding What Will Stop You From Letting Go Of a Relationship…Or Draw You To It
- Mini Video: Missing Someone That Mistreated You is Like Mourning The Loss of Trash
- Why He’s Not An Assclown Because He Broke Up With You/Doesn’t Want a Relationship
- Reader Advice: If he doesn’t want a relationship, why is he with her, when he could be mistreating me instead?
- ‘Is He Different With Her? Why Did He Choose Her Instead of Me?’ – When You’re Not The One (or they move on to a fresh victim)
- Getting Past Your Anger & Getting Out of Stuck
- Understanding what makes you angry & why in relationships & post breakup part two
- Understanding what makes you angry & why in relationships & post breakup part one
- Being Afraid To Feel Angry In Relationships or Post Breakup
- Getting Over Him When You Thought You Were Friends Part Two
- Getting Over Him When You Thought You Were Friends Part One
- Excerpt from The No Contact Rule: Getting Trapped By Your Own Feelings
- Guest Post: How to let go of relationship illusions & empower yourself for future relationships
- Are we giving up on love?
- Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailables & Assclowns Part Three
- Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailables & Assclowns Part Two
- Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailables & Assclowns Part One
- Obsessing & Overthinking – Processing the Evidence of your Relationship So You Can Move On
- He broke up with me: Is he an assclown?
- Letting Go of a Relationship That Doesn’t Exist
- If you’re healing, why are you dating?
- Ten Christmas Survival Tips for the heartbroken, and lovers of asscowns and Mr Unavailables Part Two
- Ten Christmas Survival Tips for the heartbroken, and lovers of assclowns and Mr Unavailables Part One
- Reader Advice: Help! I feel rejected by an assclown and can’t let go
- Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda: Could my relationship have been different?
- He’s with someone else – Why her and not me?
- Reader Question: He broke up with me because he met someone else – Is he a bastard?
- When they tell you they want to break up versus treating you badly so that you end the relationship
- Relationship advice: How do I start my life over again after leaving my cheating ex fiance?
- Why can’t men and women break up?
- Relationship Advice: I want to confront the Other Woman and thump her! How do I deal with my anger?
- Guest Post: The ‘C’ Word: Closure
- Guest post: You Don’t Have To EVER Stop Loving Your Man
- Reader story: He did me a favour by cutting contact.
- How do you heal a broken heart?
- Guest Post: Relinquishing Your Addiction To Someone
- Advice: Why won’t he contact me?
- Advice: Is it my fault that we broke up?
- Advice: How do I say goodbye without the anger and pressure in my interracial relationship?
- Breaking Up With No Reason
- Coping With When Your Ex Starts Dating First
- How To Get Over a Breakup
- How Long Should It Take To Get Over Being Dumped
- Exes Must Learn To Let Go!
- Tips for The End of a Friendship
- How to cope when your friendship ends
- Guest Post – The Ghosts Of Dating Past
- When Your Ex Meets Someone First
- If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves
- Guest Post: Why You Shouldn’t Cling to the hurt?
Patterns & Habits
- When Old Coping Mechanisms Become Today’s Roadblock to Love
- Letting Go of the Control Reins: The Path to True Emotional Autonomy
- Same Relationship, Different Person
- The Powerful Untruths of Our Negative Beliefs Block Loving Relationships
- Why do certain people push our buttons?
- Building habits challenges our identity. We’re capable of more than we think.
- Being naive about ‘authority figures’ is a blind spot we need to clear up
- Let your family get on with their own drama
- Doubting that a loving relationship is attainable
- There’s no need to be ‘baggage-free’ to move forward or have what we want
- A few thoughts about gossiping
- Questioning our default stories and fears allows us to ‘update’
- Awareness of our patterns gives us the space to be better than before
- The Tension Relief of Procrastination
- Why Am I Experiencing Resistance About the Thing I Say I Want or Need?
- Your Needs Matter. There’s No Need to Be the Strong One.
- Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Convince You That Your Achievement Was A Fluke
- About Fear of Abandonment and Why We Lower Our Standards
- About Loving You First
- Giving Up The Role of Being Over-Responsible
- Advice Wednesday: I Took Him Back & Now He’s Cheating Again
- Let Your Anxious Younger Self Know That You Have Their Back
- This isn’t love: You’re in pattern, they’re in pattern
- Advice Wednesday: Something doesn’t feel right (& he still had the Plenty of Fish app on his iPad). Help!
- Fear of sacrifice, fear of commitment
- Advice Wednesday #7: My Ex Became More Controlling When I stopped Earning. Is Financial Equity Critical To Relationship Success?
- Power Struggles in Relationships: Who’s really ‘winning’ here?
- Testing People Out Always Leads To Setting Ourselves Up To Fail
- Our “I can” and “I can’t” isn’t always accurate
- The Under-Receiving Overgiver: Are You Able to Receive Gifts, Compliments or Help?
- You can change your version of normal at any time
- It’s Time To Heed The ‘Historical Data’ Instead Of Treating Shady Treatment As An Anomaly Or Something You Caused
- Getting Out of Your Uncomfortable Comfort Zone: Why it’s time to stop using your time to reinforce unhealthy beliefs
- Do You Have A Circular Issue?
- We self-sabotage our efforts to do better by us, because we’re afraid
- When the way we do things doesn’t produce the desired & predicted results, it’s not about whether we’re “good enough”
- Carting Excess Baggage Around Puts the Past on Repeat. Offload, Repack, Reclaim.
- Attraction is prompted by instincts: If we lack self-knowledge, our intuition is off, which means our instincts are off too
- Are you treating all conflict and criticism as ‘bad’? Negative associations strike again!
- Breakups and new relationships offer opportunities to break old habits
- Revisited: Can’t figure out what’s bothering you? You’ve normalised treading water in stress
- Revisited: Understanding what your trust points were in your shady relationship
- When our perspective grows, we grow too
- Be careful of getting carried away with trying to get your own way
- Are you still trying to right the wrongs of the past?
- Don’t scratch the loneliness ‘itch’ with the wrong scratcher
- Toxic Type: Be Careful What You Wish For
- Finding the Willpower To Stick With a Decision To Change When You Feel Exhausted From ‘Resisting’
- Opting Out Means Consciously Making Different Choices
- Change The Meaning, Change The Feeling
- Are ‘False Negatives’ Causing You To Make Negative Associations?
- Do You Keep Jumping To Dodgy Conclusions That Leave You Feeling Bad About You?
- Your Perception Of Your Choices Has A Lot To Do With Your Self-Esteem
- Are You Struggling With Guilt? Learning The Lesson & Changing Perspective So You Can Move On
- Don’t Typecast Or Pigeonhole Yourself In A Role That Takes You Away From Yourself
- Do You Have a One False Move (& It’s All Your Fault) Mentality?
- Are You Trying To Prevent ‘Unfavourable Outcomes’ & Missing Out On Life Or Ending Up In More Pain?
- Are You Stuck In An Uncomfortable Comfort Zone?
- Turning ‘Rejection Talk’ On Its Head – Looking At Your Rejection Experiences From a Different Perspective
- Sitting On The Fence: The Position You Adopt When You Fear Making Mistakes By Committing To Decisions
- Why Force It? Changing Your Position From Stubbornness
- Love: Are You Ready To Look At You Differently?
- Do You Have a ‘Not Allowed To Fail’ Mentality Towards Dating & Relationships?
- Change Doesn’t Come Without…Change
- Believing It’s Impossible or Very Difficult To Change? If You’ve Changed To Accommodate Unhealthy Relationships, You *Can* Change
- What’s The Benefit of Believing The Worst About Yourself?
- If You Can’t Figure Out What’s Bothering You, It’s Because You’ve Normalised Treading Water In Stress
- Prioritise Having a Healthy Relationship Instead of Focusing on ‘Getting One’ From a Reluctant Source
- Can You Make (& Stick To) a Decision? If You Can’t, You Have Commitment Issues
- Why It’s Important For You To Stop Blaming Yourself… Even When You Want To Make It ALL About You
- Relationship/Drama Crack: Are You Creating Your Own Dynasty Level Drama?
- I’m Not Good Enough – The world through a low self-esteem lens
- When You Believe You Can’t Leave, Funny Enough, You Don’t Leave
- Relationship Insanity: Understanding Why You Feel Tempted To Go Back and Repeat Your Pattern With Your Pain Source
- Quiz: How much of a Blame Absorber are you in relationships?
- Quitting Distraction – Time To Experience the Feelings and Make The Changes
- Are you selling yourself short in dating, relationships and life?r
- Are you clutching your security blanket? Why it’s time to strip off the extra layers of anger and hurt you’re carrying
- What Changed? Making The Positive Choice To Choose You
- When You’re Afraid of Abandonment But You Also Choose People That Are Unlikely To Stay
- Are You Painting Yourself Into a Corner? When Your Beliefs Remove Your Options
- What do you believe about YOU? Your Beliefs Tell You What You Think Are Your Capabilities in that Capacityr
- Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 5): Breaking the Cycle
- Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 4): Gaining perspective
- Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 3): Let’s talk about mothers
- Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 2): Let’s talk about fathers
- Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 1): The One Where I Share My Story
- A Lesson in The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Seeking Validation in Relationships
- Why Aren’t I Attracted to the Good/Decent/Nice Guys?
- Lovenomics: Managing Your Desire to Be the Exception in Relationships Part Two
- Lovenomics: Managing Your Desire to Be the Exception in Relationships Part One
- Getting Out of Stuck: What are you doing to help bring love into your life?
- The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships Part Two
- The [Polar] Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships (Part One)
- Do you understand the dynamics of your relationship?
- Lessons from the relationship with my parents: self-esteem, emotional unavailability, & boundaries
- Who holds the powerbase in your relationship?
- That Nagging Voice: The Danger of Internal Negative Messaging
- Seeking Validation & Understanding in Your Poor Relationships Part Two
- Seeking Validation & Understanding in Your Poor Relationships Part One
- Challenging the misconceptions about yourself, love, & relationships
- Passive Aggression in Relationships Part 3
- Passive Aggression in Relationships Part 2
- Passive Aggression in Relationships Part 1
- Don’t Indulge in the Blame & Shame Game
- Overestimating Yourself: The Consequence of Change vs Inertia in Dating and Relationships
- Guest Post: Are you overthinking it?
- Are we dating our fathers? That familiar “daddy feeling”
- Red Flag Relationships and Behaviour for Drama Seekers!
- Guest post: Don’t engage the Drama Demon
- Minimise your assumptions to reduce your Drama Seeking
- Guest post: Drama Demons…
- My Epiphany Moment in Drama Seeking
- Relationship advice: does my attention seeking make me a Drama Seeker?
- Don’t let this whole drama seeking thing be as good as it gets for you
- Drama Management Quick Tips
- Drama Seeking Triggers
- Guest post: It’s Time To Clear The BAGGAGE!
- Drama Seekers: It’s time to get off the relationship crack
- Drama Seekers: ladies do love drama…
- Are You Too Clingy?
- Epiphany Relationships
- Breaking the Pattern
- Toxic Type
- Why Don’t We Want the RIGHT Guys?
- Moving Past Your Relationship Pattern
- Bastard Syndrome
Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
- Podcast Ep. 278: The One Where We Say Goodbye
- Podcast Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop
- Podcast Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing
- Podcast Ep. 275: You Don’t *Have* To Be Friends With Your Ex(es)
- Podcast Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems
- Podcast Ep. 272: Are You Disappointed? Or Is It That You’re Angry?
- Podcast Ep. 271: We’ve Got to Stop Harming Ourselves with Insane Politeness and Toxic Professionalism
- Podcast Ep. 270: Unhealthy Relationships and Knowing When To Fold
- Podcast Ep. 269: Shifting From Shady to Loving Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 268: Get Out of the Field of Shoulds by Choosing Desire Over Obligation
- Podcast Ep. 267: About Riding the Rollercoaster of Worst-Case-Scenario Anxiety
- Podcast Ep. 266: Do More ‘Reps’ of Being Yourself
- Podcast Ep. 265: The Trouble With the Not-That-Innocent Good Girl/Guy
- Podcast Ep. 264: Let’s Talk About the Real Reasons Behind Affairs
- Podcast Ep. 263: Some People Might Miss the Point of That Statement You’re Trying to Make
- Podcast Ep. 262: ‘I’m Not Ready/Able for a Relationship Right Now.’
- Podcast Ep. 261: What Does Punching Below Our Weight in Dating & Relationships Mean?
- Podcast Ep. 260: Keeping It Real About What It Means to Take Responsibility
- Podcast Ep. 259: Let’s Talk About Overgiving and Overcompensating in Our Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 258: It’s Not Our Job to Meet Our Parents’ Expectations
- Podcast Ep. 257: Losing Ourselves Leads to Losing Our Temper
- Podcast Ep. 256: On Grief and Grieving and Why It Brings the People Pleaser Out in Us
- Podcast Ep. 255: Sharing Core ‘Directional’ Values Matters for Compatibility
- Podcast Ep. 254: Are You Inadvertently Avoiding a Successful Outcome?
- Podcast Ep. 253: Was your intuition ‘wrong’ though?
- Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)
- Podcast Ep. 251: Spotting a Romance Scammer
- Podcast Ep. 250: We Will Be Changed By The Things We Do (and that’s okay)
- Podcast Ep. 249: The Trouble With Bare-Minimum Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 248: Keeping It Real About Self-Esteem
- Podcast Ep. 247: The One Where Nat Went To Therapy
- Podcast Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?
- Podcast Ep. 245: Disagreeing With Loved Ones Doesn’t Have to Be Threatening
- Podcast Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It’s a ‘Blessing in Disguise’
- Podcast Ep. 243: Revisited-What’s the baggage behind it?
- Podcast Ep. 242: But Will You Actually Get Into Trouble?
- Podcast Ep. 241: Always The Strong or Supportive One? People Might Not Know You’re In Need
- Podcast Ep. 240: Oh-Oh for Intensity and Fast Trust
- Podcast Ep. 239: Conflict Spotlights The Truth of Our More Fragile Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 238: Be Careful Who You Tell Your Problems To
- Podcast Ep. 237: ‘Mutual’ Is a Mentality
- Podcast Ep. 236: Let’s Stop Minimising Those Big Little Things
- Podcast Ep. 235: Delusions of Inferiority
- Podcast Ep. 234: *Sometimes* We’re Controlling in Our Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 233: Eek, Am I Doing Self-Care Wrong?
- Podcast Ep. 232: Columboing New or Prospective Partners on Social Media
- Podcast Ep. 231: One-Trait Minds and The Polar Opposites Game
- Podcast Ep. 230: Why you’re still having thoughts about that certain someone or thing
- Podcast Ep. 229: Burning Out from Being There For Others
- Podcast Ep. 228: Learning From Our Problems
- Podcast Ep. 227: Let’s Stop Pressing The Reset Button
- Podcast Ep. 226: Yeah, but Am I Needy?
- Podcast Ep. 225: Are We Giving or *Imposing*?
- Podcast Ep. 224: Our Experience of Someone May Differ Due to Context
- Podcast Ep. 223: The Gaslighting of Future Faking
- Podcast Ep. 222: They’re just not that into you?
- Podcast Ep. 221: Sometimes We’ve Got to Block, Delete, or Unfriend
- Podcast Ep. 220: We’re Allowed To Have Work Boundaries
- Podcast Ep. 219: You Are Allowed To Rest
- Podcast Ep. 218: Three Vulnerability Habits to Live By
- Podcast Ep. 217: Trust is a gamble, but we can learn to make good bets
- Podcast Ep. 216: The Truth About Breakups
- Podcast Ep. 215: Fear of Criticism Doesn’t Have To Run Your Life
- Podcast Ep. 214: We Don’t Need To Put So Much Bandwidth Into Keeping Up Appearances
- Podcast Ep. 213: There’s No Need to Try & Meet All of Your Needs On Your Own
- Podcast Ep. 212: People Can Be More Than One Thing
- Podcast Ep. 211: Too good to be true?
- Podcast Ep. 210: I am anxious about *something*
- Podcast Ep. 209: The Compatibility Factor
- Podcast Ep. 208: Scope Creep Makes Your Boundaries Beep
- Podcast Ep 207: Let’s Be More Truthful About Loneliness
- Podcast Ep. 206: Let’s Wait Awhile
- Podcast Ep. 205: Four steps to help you have an assertive response when you recognise that you don’t want to do something
- Podcast Ep 204: Let’s Talk About Family Estrangement
- Podcast Ep. 203: What is intimacy?
- Podcast Ep. 202: Let’s Talk About Sex
- Podcast Ep. 201: Who were you ‘getting to know’ over those texts?
- Podcast Ep. 200: The One Where Nat and Em Hang Out
- Podcast Ep. 199: Yes Isn’t A ‘Clean’ Word If It’s Not Authentic
- Podcast Ep. 198: Perfectionism and The Idealised Self
- Podcast Ep. 197: Using Code Amber and Code Red Alerts To Be More Boundaried
- Podcast Ep. 196: Taking Things Too Personally
- Podcast Ep. 195: Are you being nice, or are you disguising anger and control?
- Podcast Ep. 194: The Self-Sabotage of Overgiving, Over-Responsibility, People Pleasing, Perfectionism and Overthinking
- Podcast Ep. 193: The Landmarks of Boundaried Communication
- Podcast Ep 192: I Guilt You So Much!
- Podcast Ep. 191: About Defining The Relationship
- Podcast Ep. 190: Did I scare them off? Was it my Jedi mind tricks?
- Podcast Ep. 189: Let’s Talk About Chemistry
- Podcast Ep. 188: The Landmarks of Healthy Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 187: Breaking the Lather, Rinse, Repeat of the Frustrating Dating Cycle
- Podcast Ep. 186: Following Through On Intentions & Words With Action
- Podcast 185: The Emperor DOESN’T Have Any Clothes On – Let’s Talk About Gaslighting
- Podcast Ep. 184: ‘Why Am I Feeling OK?’ and Other Worries
- Podcast Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 182: Your ‘Worthiness’ ISN’T To Blame
- Podcast Ep. 181: Unsatisfactory Endings and Closing The Story Loop
- Podcast Ep. 180: Time For A Second (Or Umpteenth) Chance?
- Podcast Ep. 179: Better The Devil You Know?
- Podcast Ep. 178: Give Yourself Permission To Feel and Express Anger
- Podcast Ep. 177: Discomfort and the Time-Off Thermostat
- Podcast Ep. 176: Voicing Issues To Be Better Than Before
- Podcast Ep. 175: Hard Resets, Anxiety, and Corona Miracles with Exes
- Podcast Ep. 174: Let’s Not Be Okay With Taking Advantage of Someone
- Podcast Ep. 173: It’s Time To Talk About Stonewalling
- Podcast Ep. 172: It’s okay to not know what you want
- Podcast Ep. 171: Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop
- Podcast Ep. 170: Conflict & The Five Stages of Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 169: ‘They journal/meditate/do yoga/go to therapy. Shouldn’t they be more emotionally intelligent?’
- Podcast Ep. 168: Freaking Out Over Decisions (lessons from panicking about my daughter’s exams)
- Podcast Ep. 167: Texting Anxiety – Why didn’t you text back?
- Podcast Ep. 166: We’ve Got To Stop Pumping People Up With Our Great Expectations
- Podcast Ep. 165: Acceptance Is The Way Through
- Podcast Ep. 164: Am I in The Right Job?
- Podcast Ep. 163: Keeping Up With Comparison Part Two
- Podcast Ep. 162: Keeping Up With Comparison Part One
- Podcast Ep. 161: The Secret Sauce of Being You Is The Remedy For Life’s Challenges
- Podcast Ep. 160: Interest Is A Hypothesis
- Podcast Ep. 159: Feeling Stressed Or Overwhelmed Isn’t An Inconvenience; It’s Help
- Podcast Ep. 158: It’s Not That You’re Not ‘Good Enough’ — You’re Over-Responsible
- Podcast Ep. 157: ‘Damaged Goods’ & Relationship Experience
- Podcast Ep. 156: “I didn’t want to pass up on an opportunity.”
- Podcast Ep. 155: Talking About Our Feelings (Part Two)
- Podcast Ep. 154: Talking About Our Feelings (Part One)
- Podcast Ep. 153: Are They Being Unfair and Unreasonable? Am I?
- Podcast Ep. 152: Matchmaking, Being Set Up, & Recommendations
- Podcast Ep. 151: Why Don’t They Like Me?
- Podcast Ep.150 (!!!): Are You Afraid of Listening to Yourself?
- Podcast Ep. 149: Let’s Talk About Emotional Needs
- Podcast Ep. 148: Handling Put-Downs From a Place of Self-Esteem
- Podcast Ep. 147: Till Now, I Always Did Fine On My Own
- Podcast Ep. 146: Are You On a Slip ‘n Slide With Your Boundaries?
- Podcast Ep. 145: Stage 0-1 of Relationships & The Recruiter Mindset
- Podcast Ep. 144: Are Your Desires (& Pressure) Programming Or Preference?
- Podcast Ep. 143: Is An Outdated Version of You Deciding What You’re Capable Of?
- Podcast Ep. 142: ‘Getting’ Commitment
- Podcast Ep. 141: Sometimes we’re over-empathetic instead of empathetic and boundaried
- Podcast Ep. 140: The Truth About Lies
- Podcast Ep. 139: The Baggage Behind Your Break-Up Habits
- Podcast Ep. 138: Why Are Some People So Averse To Respecting Other People’s Boundaries?
- Podcast Ep.137: The Lean Period
- Podcast Ep. 136: All Is Forgiven?
- Podcast Ep. 135: In The Beginning… There Were Assumptions
- Podcast Ep. 134: They didn’t respond well. Are my boundaries wrong?
- Podcast Ep. 133: The Growth of Grief
- Podcast Ep. 132: Fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped
- Podcast Ep. 131: The Trouble With ‘Well-Meaning’ Bad Advice
- Podcast Ep. 130: Dating Anxiety & Why Efforts Don’t Equal Outcomes
- Podcast Ep. 129: Things That Make You Go Hmmm
- Podcast Ep. 128: Roles – “I Want To Break Free”
- Podcast Ep. 127: “Bark like a dog” and your ‘dating and relationship self’
- Podcast Ep. 126: I ‘Failed’, And I’m OK
- Podcast Ep. 125: Tidying Up Emotional Baggage
- Podcast Ep. 124: 10 Key Signs of Emotional Unavailability
- Podcast Ep. 123: The 5 Stages of Relationships
- Podcast Ep. 122: Relationship Crumbs, Whether It’s From The Shady or The ‘Nice’, Are Crumbs
- Podcast Ep. 121: The Release & Relief of Giving Up On Try-ing
- Podcast Ep.120: When A Friend Distances Or Cuts Off (Friendship Series)
- Podcast Ep. 119: Happy Christmas, Ex! And By The Way…
- Podcast Ep. 118: Being Yourself – Will The Real You Please Stand Up?
- Podcast Ep. 117: Needs, Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages & Misunderstandings
- Podcast Ep. 116: Conflict In Friendships: It doesn’t have to spell the end
- Podcast Ep. 115: ‘Tis The Season NOT To Crush Your Self-Esteem (The 12 Weeks of Self-Esteem Torment)
- Podcast Ep. 114: Have I Outgrown My Friendship?
- Podcast Ep. 113: You Don’t Have To Hold Yourself Hostage To A Conversation (Or Drama)
- Podcast Ep. 112: The Trouble With Emotional Blackmail
- Podcast Ep.111: Protecting & nurturing your mental health means remembering that you matter too
- Podcast Ep. 110: Jealousy, Envy & ‘Hate Following’ in Friendships
- Podcast Ep. 109: The Four Qualities
- Podcast Ep. 108: Expectations and Friendship (“A friend should…..”)
- Podcast Ep. 107: Getting Grounded About Intuition and Anxiety
- Podcast Ep. 106: Friendship Means Different Things To Different People
- Podcast Ep. 105: Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word
- Podcast Ep. 104: Did We (Or They) Meet The Threshold For Pursuing Romantic Interest?
- Podcast Ep. 103: Trial & Error, Baby! The 20:20 Vision of Hindsight
- Podcast Ep. 102: On ‘Failing’ (Why Are You Still Single? Why Aren’t You More Successful?)
- Podcast Ep. 101: Help, Support, or Fuzzy Boundaries?
- Podcast Ep. 100: Are You Exceeding Your Bandwidth? (You Are Not The Energizer Bunny)
- The podcast is back. Time to reconnect
- Podcast Ep. 99: Listening To Yourself & Knowing When To Call It
- Podcast Ep. 98: From Silent to Speaking Up & Speaking Out
- Podcast Ep. 97: Focus On You – Want A Relationship? Be Prepared To Say No To The Distractions
- Podcast Ep. 96: Is It Time To Go On a Social Media Diet?
- Podcast Ep. 95: Can We Talk For A Minute? Ambiguity’s Not My Thang
- Podcast Ep. 94: We Are Allowed To Grow (Yes We Are!)
- Podcast Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?
- Ep. 92: You’re Not My Usual Type But You Could Be With Some Changes
- Podcast Ep. 91: Who’s In Your Entourage?
- Podcast Ep. 90: Pretending To Be Something We’re Not
- Podcast Ep. 89: I Am 40
- Podcast Ep. 88: You’re Not The Boss of Me!
- Podcast Ep. 87: Jaysus! What’s Up With All The Life Lessons, Professor Life?
- Ep. 86: I Can’t Believe You Don’t Want Me
- Ep. 85: Some Crumbs Isn’t Better Than No Crumbs
- Podcast Ep. 84: Am I Interested In You?
- Podcast Ep. 83: They Just Want Attention, They Don’t Want Your Heart
- Podcast Ep. 82: Thick Skin and An Elastic Heart
- Podcast Ep. 81: Saying Hello
- Podcast Ep. 80: Saying Goodbye
- Podcast Ep. 79: Need Space?, Too Bloody Nice For Our Own Good, Short But Loaded Texts